11 Of The Very, Very, Very Worst Queer TV And Movie Scenes Of All Time...And 10 That Are So Perfect, They've Become Iconic

I asked BuzzFeed readers to share the LGBTQ+ TV and movie scenes they deemed the very best...and the ones they deemed the very worst. So, without further ado, here are 11 queer scenes that totally missed the mark, and here are 10 more that were so good, they became instantly iconic:

1.WORST: When Samantha reveals that she's dating Maria in Sex in the City:

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"I recently rewatched Sex and the City and couldn’t help but cringe at the lack of support when Samantha told the girls. Samantha is such a girl’s girl and always supports her friends, whether it’s in terms of sex, sexuality, or anything else. It really disappointed me!"

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— Harriet, 34

2.BEST: "On Schitt's Creek, when David explains himself with wine labels. It helped put a lot of things into words for a lot of people."

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"I also believe a lot of light bulbs went off and people figured out that they are bisexual. A lot of us figured out it's okay to like the wine, not the labels. 🌈✌️

—julessomewhere

3.WORST: Santana's bi-phobic comments after she starts seeing Dani (Demi Lovato) on Glee:

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—Angelica Martinez

4.BEST: When Carmen realizes Benny is gay in Overcompensating.

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"For some reason, the hug from the party scene inOvercompensatingepisode 5 between Benny and Carmen at the Halloween party really got to me.The way the music cuts out when she realizes that Benny is gay is just so perfect. I was in college in the early 2010s as well, and I get emotional thinking about how — as an out trans woman — I could have had a similar experience. It didn’t happen for me, but seeing Benny be automatically accepted by his best friend is just beautiful."

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— Rachel B

5.WORST: Villanelle dying in the finale of Killing Eve.

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"They were finally together after four long seasons of cat and mouse, and then Villanelle dying by a gunshot?! She and Eve deserved so much more. I choose to pretend the last five minutes of Killing Eve never happened."

— Mathew, 35

6.BEST: Clare's coming out scene in Derry Girls.

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"I'm the wee lesbian might be one of the funniest lines of the show."

—Anonymous

7.WORST: "I hate to say it, but any Mabel (Selena Gomez) and Alice (Cara Delevingne) scene in Only Murders in the Building. Good show, but god, there's negative chemistry between them and I felt bad watching it."

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—flubber7777

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8.BEST: When Eric and his dad, Mr. Effiong, have this raw conversation in Sex Education.

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—Angelica Martinez

9.WORST: "The ladies discussing how they don't believe in being bisexual in SATC. So much bi-erasure and shaming."

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—Anonymous

10.BEST: When Willow comes out to Buffy in Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

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"I think it's such a beautiful scene, and I love how Buffy reacts. She is a little shocked at first, but supports Willow throughout."

—Anonymous

11.WORST: "The entire plot of Happiest Season."

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"Portraying staying with a partner who would deny being your partner and expect you to pretend to be someone else is beyond toxic. Kristen Stewart’s character should not have forgiven her partner for how she was treated."

— Emma, 27

12.BEST: When Jack comes out to his father in Dawson's Creek.

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—Anonymous

13.WORST: "Definitely Finn singing the weird slow version of 'Girls Just Wanna Have Fun' to Santana on Glee when she was just starting to accept her sexuality."

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"Not only was the song a REALLY bad and awkward cover, but acting like he was being a heroically good friend just for singing it to her... the vibes were off."

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—Anonymous

14.BEST: "In This Is Us, when Randall and Tess's daughter comes out to them. I just pictured my child sharing something so big about themselves, and me reassuring them there's nothing they could do or be that would make me love them any less."

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"Randall and Tess handled it so lovingly. I cried all night knowing there are parents that wouldn't react like that."

— Lana

15.WORST: "When Kurt from Glee was being biphobic after Blaine and Rachel drunkenly kissed during the 'Blame It On the Alcohol' episode, and Blaine thought he might be bisexual."

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"It plays into the myth that bisexual men aren't actually bisexual: they're just gay men in denial pretending to be into women so that they can feel 'normal'. And it being Kurt — a character who went through such hardships, an identity crisis, and intense bullying due to his own sexuality — made the scene even worse."

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— Brandyce, 29

"This scene is definitely problematic. For a show about accepting yourself, this was definitely not on theme. Perhaps Blaine doesn't turn out to be bisexual, but there are many teenage boys who might be. This sends the wrong message to them."

—Anonymous

"Glee had a lot of bi-phobic moments now that I think about it.This one was awful because I was in my teens whileGleewas on, and at that time, I was also questioning my sexuality, and that was the first time I saw someone say, 'Hey, I like boys AND girls.'It was something I could immediately relate to, only to be shut down instantly by someone else saying it was a lie..."

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—Anonymous

16.BEST: The scene where Robin comes out to Steve in Stranger Things.

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—Angelica Martinez

17.WORST: "The scene in Blue is the Warmest Color where one woman fingers the other very conspicuously in a restaurant, and the other woman (the one being fingered) was screaming and moaning louder than a banshee."

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"I hated that scene;it made me so uncomfortable. The whole movie was made even worse when it came out that the star, Lèa Seydoux, was extremely uncomfortable filming the movie as a whole. I truly feel like that movie was made more for straight men rather than queer women. And yes, the director and main writer was a man (Abdellatif Kechiche)."

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—minervamcgonogall

18.BEST: When Rosa comes out to her parents in Brooklyn Nine-Nine.

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"Rosa's storyline in Brooklyn Nine-Nine! Her parents initially were upset and in denial, her dad eventually came around (and her mom was not quite ready). I loved the way Rosa stood her ground with her identity, even if it meant losing her family. I also truly appreciated the squad coming together to support her and remind her that they all have her back and are her family, too."

— Sam, 27

19.WORST: "When Troy and Cal come out as a couple in American Horror Story: Double Feature. They talk in a way that’s so vulgar and weird, you’d think the writer had never spoken to a gay person in their life."

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—Alex, 30

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20.BEST: "Caitlyn and Vi's sex scene in Arcane. Such a monumental scene for lesbian representation and desire, so beautifully directed and animated, and the storyboards for it won an Annie Award!"

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—Anonymous

21.WORST: "When The 100 had Clarke and Lexa finally get together, and then killed Lexa (who was a badass warrior) off moments later via a stray bullet."

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"Their relationship had a lot of build-up, and to kill Lexa moments after they slept together for the first time was a slap in the face to both the characters and fans. It's the worst case of the 'bury your gays' trope I've seen."

—Anonymous

"One of the best characters on the show, and she had amazing chemistry with Clark. Terrible, lazy writing, and the definition of 'Bury Your Gays.'"

—Anonymous

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